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(Updated)Is your Stalker Real or Imagined?

There are 7.5 million people stalked every year. Has your stalker acted out in a course of conduct directed at you that would cause you to feel fear and to be unsafe? Is your stalker someone you know, or you do not know but has consistently been following you, calling or sending you letters, emails even gifts or flowers? Signs of a Stalker: Are You Being Followed? Those occurrences constitute sufficient evidence to establish you are being stalked. You should try to document every incident and sighting of your stalker, including the location, the date and time of confrontation or observance. Try to take a photo of your stalker if he/she is unknown to you. The first action you should take is to call 911 immediately. Victims of Crimes including Stalking published this helpful brochure; please take a few minutes to read it. More often than not, your stalker is someone you know. What is a stalker? Source: Pinterest Perhaps an ex-boyfriend, girlfriend or someone you shared a short or long term relationship with, a fiancé, an ex-husband or wife, a co-worker, a next-door neighbor, someone you met online. Alternatively, a person you ran into numerous times who lives in your building, or at a neighborhood market, perhaps a boutique thus eliminating the possibility of coincidence. Celebrities and others who are in the public view such as TV newscasters, sports announcers, athletes are often victims of stalkers. “One in eight American women will get stalked in her lifetime,” says stalking consultant psychiatrist Dr. Park Dietz. “But for a female news anchor, it is virtually a certainty. At any given time, she might be stalked by several at once and not even know about it.” There have been numerous studies of stalkers by psychiatrists all over the world all of whom concluded that stalkers have one form or another of a mental disorder which should not be your concern. You are not required to figure out your stalker’s mental illness. What to do if nobody listens to you? You may have shared your concerns with friends or family, and they responded by saying that you are hypersensitive. Those responses are quite common, but you do not and should not experience this alone. Stalking is a serious crime that can cause depression and hopelessness. While victims should always turn to the police first for assistance, you may be disappointed. To understand what to do and whom to call. there are many organizations that help stalking victims.  Here is additional information with regard to Cyber Stalking from our friends in England According to Dr. Doris Hall, an expert on criminology at California State University at Bakersfield emphasizes the importance of taking any stalking behavior seriously and dealing with it aggressively from the outset. ”If someone’s behavior seems out of line if it is making you uncomfortable, something is up,” she said. ”You have a better chance of putting a stop to it if you do not give it a chance to accelerate.’‘ CUT OFF ALL CONTACT — Dr. Hall compared stalkers with ”naughty third graders.” Dr. Hall recommends firmness: ”Once and only once, tell the person you want nothing to do with him/her. Don’t try to be nice; it can only work against you.” How to protect yourself from stalkers? Should you become frustrated due to the lack of immediate law enforcement action while your stalker appears to be accelerating.  You should call a private investigator or bodyguard who will provide you with a personal protection specialist and at your request conduct an extensive background investigation on the stalker to determine if the stalker has prior criminal convictions, restraining orders or may have been committed to a mental hospital. On the other hand, if you cannot provide any evidence of the stalker’s contact such as any written or verbal communication from the stalker, law enforcement will be unable to help you after they conclude their interview with you. To understand this issue in more detail, we suggest you read this article recently published by the New York Times.

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Protect Yourself from Stalker: The Possible Ways

Many Stalking victims fear that they are unable to protect themselves or know how to stop their stalker. Even though stalking is a criminal offense in many states across America, there are legal guidelines that must be met for law enforcement to proceed with an arrest warrant and to prosecute a stalker. A victim who is unable to provide evidence that they are a victim of a stalker may be unable to obtain the help of law enforcement. What evidence does it take you may ask? Here are some examples: An actual physical and possibly harmful event took place. Heinous emails that contain criminal threats. Threatening text messages containing criminal threats. Voicemails threating to kill rape or mutilate you, a victim. That list qualifies as actual criminal conduct and criminal threats which are prosecutable. If a person alleges that their neighbors are stalking them, or someone is listening in on their cell or landline calls and that their computer was hacked, but are unable to prove those assertions, law enforcement will not investigate their allegations due to the alleged victim’s failure to provide any evidence. More often than not, people who claim those things are happening but have no proof usually require medical assistance rather than law enforcement. HERE IS A LIST OF THE SERVICES WE PROVIDE Surveillance Investigations Civil and Criminal Investigations One out of every 12 women will end up a victim of stalking in their lifetime. Stalking victims with actual evidence should be extremely proactive and contact law enforcement immediately. Law enforcement will be dynamic to a degree but they cannot offer you twenty-four protection, nor can they keep your stalker under surveillance for twenty-four hours.  A private investigator that specializes in stalker investigations services is someone that can provide you with twenty-four-hour surveillance and protection. You would be wise to contact a private detective if their fee is affordable for you. To act nonchalant about being stalked and not taking it seriously is seriously wrong and very dangerous. Anyone who is stalked and thinks their stalker is not capable of harming them or worse yet, that their stalker is “harmless” is making a fatal mistake. Numerous studies have shown that stalking is associated with various forms of violence such as rape, abduction, and murder. If in fact you are being stalked and you are in a position to identify your stalker that goes a long way in offering protection for you. Many stalking victims have reported that their stalking lasted two or more years and some victims were forced to take a leave of absence from their job because their stalker knew where they worked.   Stalking has no gender barriers, and the majority of stalkers are former significant others. Strangers stalk very few victims, but it does happen for reasons unknown to the victim unless the stalker identifies their obsession to the victim. Celebrities are often the obsession of a deranged individual who goes forth stalking their passion.   Has Your Stalker Done Any of This to You Follow you constantly Contacted you either by phone, text’s or emails Came to your place of employment Came to your home and asked to go inside Stole your personal property Spread rumors about you to friends and family Sent you unwanted gifts Posted photos of you online Threaten to harm or kill anyone you care about Physically or sexually assaulted you What you can do to protect yourself from stalker Obtaining evidence is your primary objective. If your stalker is following you go into selfie mode on your cell phone and film what is happening behind you. Ask a friend or even a stranger who works in a store to help you to take video of the person following you on their cell phone and then go back to that person later and have them send you their video clip. Have a tape recorder next to your landline phone or record the caller on your cell phone. Save all texts and emails. Take down the license plate number of the person following you but be sure it is the same car, same plate number, and the same person. Guaranteed it will not be several automobiles or a gang of people because there is no such thing as gang stalking. Real stalkers work alone. Rule number one; never reply to a threatening or irritating message because once you do that, you encourage the stalker to accelerate their vicious activity. Private Investigators & Bodyguards If you feel scared, threatened or vulnerable about your safety, hiring the right, experienced private detective and personal bodyguard will offer you the protection you need as they will know how to neutralize and contain your stalker  Where You Can Obtain Help Do not doubt yourself or think it might be your imagination that someone is stalking you. With evidence in hand do not try to minimize your stalker’s behavior. Whenever you feel unsafe, you should immediately seek help from your local police department. At the community level, many organizations provide support groups or domestic violence shelters that can offer services like a safe place to stay, counseling, court accompaniment and advocacy. These are part of the police department or prosecutor’s office and can provide many of the above services should the victim bring charges against the stalker.

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