How to Recognize Signs of Infidelity—23 Years of Experience Taught Us These Crucial Signs
How to recognize signs of infidelity is a question asked by many of our clients. One of the most disturbing moments in a person’s life is to experience the feeling that their spouse or significant other is being unfaithful. We are often asked by potential clients how can they know for certain if their life’s partner is cheating on them. We compiled a list of frequent situations and issues that arise in a relationship that may indicate infidelity of which was promulgated by various psychological occurrences caused by either partner to seek affection or another relationship elsewhere.
Here is what we’ve learned about the most common causes of infidelity:
- A significant decrease in sexual interaction between partners
- An affair with a co-worker like the attractive one you met at your partner’s workplace
- You overheard your partner talking with that co-worker after hours
- Your partner has sudden and several abrupt outbursts over insignificant issues, followed by a rapid departure from your home, then after a long delay, returns home
- A sudden increase in out of town business trips
- Suspicious and suggestive emails or text messages on your partner’s cell phone or computer
- Links to matchmaker websites
- Unusual credit card charges
- Abusive responses when you’ve asked where they were and why they had not called as they usually do
- Makeup, cologne or perfume on their clothes
- An increase getting together with their friends without you for multiple evenings out telling you they think your relationship is no longer working and they need some time away to sort things out
- Threatening to leave at the drop of a hat for no apparent reason
- Constantly complaining about your appearance
- You observe your partner constantly eyeing every attractive female or male that comes into view.
Trust your instincts if you recognize any of these signs of infidelity in your relationship
Constantly arguing between partners is a huge contributor toward infidelity and it is also a clear indication that the relationship is in danger of disintegrating. Partners should remind their significant other how they felt when they fell in love and they should ask “how can we return to those feelings?” Counseling often helps restore your relationship and when there are children involved it is always advisable to seek counseling as long as you both want to preserve the relationship.
A “midlife crisis” is a huge contributor of infidelity. Your partner might feel they are getting older and are showing signs of aging. Your partner may be obsessing over a younger attractive partner who may have a moral compass of “anything goes.”
Trust Your Intuition
Your intuitiveness is the best barometer to know that infidelity might be in play and needs to be addressed. Becoming hysterical, threatening and unreasonable never works; it only inflames the situation. We always suggest that you should definitely confirm your suspicions of infidelity prior to confronting your partner by having your partner surveiled.
Don’t torture yourself by not knowing. Knowledge is power! Having unequivocal proof of their infidelity gives you the upper hand in avoiding their denials of infidelity and accusing you of being untrusting.
There have been times after we gathered evidence of infidelity where we’ve witnessed relationships mend. Over the years we stayed in touch with a few clients who reconciled with their partners and learned that their relationship actually improved. Many clients take into account their family, their children and the emotional damage it may cause should they divorce. It all comes down to whether both partners will commit to trusting each other again and each partner understanding what caused the infidelity to begin with.
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BIOGRAPHY OF AUTHOR ROBERT MANN
Robert was born in New York and as a youngster moved to California with his family where he now resides. Robert became an ardent reader of suspense novels and cultivated a passion for solving mysteries at a very young age. Twenty-six years ago he founded the Worldwide Intelligence Network which is an accomplished licensed California and New York Private Investigation company. Today his investigative skills encompass a broad range of diverse investigative assignments all presented on his company’s website.
Worldwide Intelligence Network’s investigative assignments have taken Robert around the world where he often worked alongside with associates native to the country where the assignments took him.
Several valued and well-respected prestigious law firms from coast to coast have retained the services of Worldwide Intelligence Network as well as public and private corporations, government agencies such as the County of Los Angeles and the City Attorney of Los Angeles, Metropolitan Transit Authority of Los Angeles. Robert and his team of investigators serve small business owners, multi-national corporations, celebrities, and high-net-worth individuals. Worldwide Intelligence Network is ranked among the “Five Best Private Investigation Companies in America” by Conde Nast Publications.
Culturally savvy and globally-minded; Robert became an expert at interviewing, researching, assessing, writing/editing, and reporting with a keen understanding of the law, evidentiary procedures, and validation of admissible evidence, as well as applicable fraud statues at the State and Local levels.
One of Robert’s most memorable investigations took place in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam (formally Saigon) where he was retained to conduct an extraordinary challenging and dangerous investigation of his client’s son’s murder. After concluding that investigation and identifying the killers, Robert felt compelled to write a novel “The Assignment” that was published and received excellent reviews.
Robert was continually being asked to provide Bodyguard services by his clients, and thus he acquired a license to offer Bodyguard Services around the world. SOME OF ROBERT’S INVESTIGATIVE ACHIEVEMENTS ARE:
He has saved his insurance company clients hundreds of thousands of dollars by exposing fraudulent claims.
He located millions of dollars of embezzled funds overseas which led to a very favorable settlement.
He prevented an innocent client from being convicted of bribing a Federal Agent; The case was dismissed.
He located two runaway children within hours of their parent's requests.
He exposed a criminal conspiracy perpetrated by father and son upon an elderly woman with a terminal illness. Both were captured and convicted to five years in prison.
He revealed both unfaithful and faithful spouses in hundreds of infidelity assignments.
He identified who stole tens of thousands of dollars in jewelry from an elderly woman with dementia and had that person arrested.
Asked to locate an employee of a law firm who went missing he found out that she had been murdered by her significant other who when confronted by the Los Angeles Police Department, took his life.
Robert personally connects with all of his clients and potential clients to make sure they are presented with the best investigative options and personal protection services. ROBERT MANN’S CREDENTIALS AND AFFILIATIONS
California Private Investigator’s License, 14745
Private Investigator’s License New York, #0311124
California Private Patrol Operator’s License #15757
POST Certified on Background Investigations Course
Member of the California Association of Private Investigators CALI
Qualified Provider of MCLE by The California State Bar
Robert provides Pro Bono Investigative Services to the Public Counsel of Los Angeles.
Public Counsel is the largest pro bono law firm in the nation.